What Makes a Difficult Person Difficult?
…and how can we make a difficult person less difficult?
Difficult people. At times, they appear to be everywhere. In fact, a quick search of the internet for “how to deal with difficult people” returns 784,000,000 results. Maybe, then, we could be forgiven for thinking that difficult people ARE everywhere!
But what is it that makes a person difficult?
Why do we Find Something “Difficult”?
If something is difficult for us, it is “not easy”. The interesting point is that what one person sees as not easy, another person may see as easy. For example, a 5km cycle may not be easy for me. For my friend who cycles hundreds of kilometres per week, it may be very easy. Neither of us is right or wrong. We are reporting on our experience of life.
When we say that something is difficult, the assessment of difficult comes from how we are interpreting that part of our world at that point in time. While we might be able to measure the distance of a cycling outing — 5km will always be 5km — we can’t measure whether or not the route is difficult, because that will depend on whoever is cycling it at the time.
Our interpretations are going to be informed by many different historical factors: our upbringing…
